Seaham hall (December 15 1814)
‘I think, dearest B, thou art happier since the letter of yesterday.
Thine came to-day, saying “this week or the next.”
I don’t wish to encrease your vexation of spirit, made manifest in the hideous D’s – but the continuation of these unnecessary delays creates vexation of spirit to my father and mother…
You and I do not mind appearances much, but we must allow them to have more weight with those who are not under the influence of our particular feelings.
After all, suppose tomorrow’s post should tell me that the ring is to wait…
…. Well – neither it nor I should change.
Wife or not – always thine.‘
Lord Byron’s Wife Malcolm Elwin (London: John Murray 1962)